Just popped to the supermarket and watched one car get right up close to another as it stopped, whereby the front car driver huffed and puffed then finally got out.
Can’t you see I’m trying to park?
No, I didn’t see you indicate!
I find watching other peoples frustrating communications quite amusing when I am in a relaxed state of mind.
Tags: General NLP talk
Through my NLP connections, I met a guy a few months ago called Arton Baleci. He is undertaking an amazing experiment called The Beautiful Aim.
He is using NLP modelling techniques and working with some experts in their field and his aim is to become a professional football player within 12 months.
Sound a little ridiculous? I’m not so sure.
You can find out more about Arton on his website and he also has a Facebook Group. If nothing else, it’s an interesting one to follow.
Arton has already managed to get some big named support, including John Grinder, so I for one will be keeping my eyes on this project.
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In my search for videos this week, I came across this two-part interview with John Grinder from Inspiritive.
I talk on my About page about how I sometimes have struggled in the past with elements of NLP and some of the NLPers I have met along the way. Incongruence is a word that stood out for me in these interviews.
Anyway. Basically, I am saying I like these videos and I like the messaging, including the openness to admit wrongness and the seeming willingness to share and recruit. I am sure money is involved somewhere for John Grinder but I can’t help thinking it doesn’t seem to be a massive part of his motivation.
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I’m sitting watching “Would Like To Meet Again” on BBC2. I used to love this programme when it showed a few years ago in 2002.
Now, I am a different kind of person. NLP has helped me realise much more of my potential. I was single then and not very confident with women and now I am married to a beautiful woman. (more…)
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I think partly because I did a couple of client sessions late last week and the fact that I am doing a Best Man’s Speech on Saturday, for which I have needed to work on myself, I have been revisiting some long ago used NLP techniques, and trying some new ones.
It’s funny but the video I watched last week - The Secret - encouraged me to get some real basics in place for myself last week which kicked it all off, especially in the area of my health. As a result I have been hammering my cross-trainer for the past week and a half and feeling great for it, which has also helped me learn some new stuff. (more…)
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IF you’ve never seen any of the videos on TED, you may want to check it out - there are some quite inspirational bitesize speeches on there.
Anyway, here’s a Tony Robbins one I came across earlier in the week:
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I met someone a couple of weeks ago and we got to speaking about NLP. Then they started telling me about this book called ‘The Secret’. If I’m honest, I scoffed a bit but borrowed the book anyway.
Then, I noticed there was a film so I got that instead because the book wasn’t really doing it for me.
Anyway, it’s actually quite good. It’s packaged for a certain market, no doubt, but it instills a lot of [what could be seen as] NLP techniques regarding fulfilment. Yes, it focusses on the easy targets of attracting love, money and health but so what - it’s a ‘way in’ to change.
My own introduction to NLP was through an illusionist - say no more - and yes I initially focussed on all the shallow things that I wanted. I can imagine this is a pattern that many people follow. But, if a film like this can make a positive change to someones life then fair play. I passed it on to someone I thought may benefit and they got a lot out of it.
Sometimes, the low hanging fruit is the most accessible.
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When I learned NLP at Practitioner level, I have vivid memories of trying to read scripts off paper when doing stuff like submodality change work. I always remember the feeling that if I said something wrong I could break someone half way through a session.
What a naive fool I was 
A friend of mine, an NLP trainer, has, over the past couple of years, instilled in me the need to be more playful with any of the techniques - it’s about the result.
I found this last night with a second NLP session in two weeks. The fact that I improvised at the speed of a bullet and still got the desired result.
This has seriously opened my eyes to what could be - with a bit of playing.
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I did some change work with someone last night - something I haven’t done for a long time. Plenty of time distortion linguistics, some submodality change work and showing the client how to create an anchor and make it more potent themselves.
One thing I noticed was my constant chase to develop rapport with the client. This person had had an NLP experience before, along with all the comments from friends about what NLP is, and it was interesting to note the hesitancy about what may, or may not, happen during the session.
So, I spent most of the time developing rapport, with the change work almost a side issue. Change did take place, and I’d like to think when we meet again next week, last night’s session would have enabled me to start further down the line and achieve even more change.
As a non-practicing practitioner I always wonder about my own competence during these sessions and my ability to maximise the effect of any change work. What worries me most, however, is the competence of people out there doing this for a living, with money changing hands.
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Two members of my family aren’t getting on. One of them wants to but has given up I think. They rub each other up the wrong way and the problem is neither of the them will budge.
I found myself in a similar (different context) situation this week. We sent out a marketing communication at work and had two complaints. It maybe worth pointing out that we sent about 400 of the things but I still managed to take it personally that one of these two people told us not to send us our stuff in future. The message was that “we know who you are already”.
I see similarities on these two events purely because of the responses, and, the seemingly lack of willingness to acknowledge the need to be flexible (although it did hit me after a day).
If the meaning of communication is the response you get then surely the communicator needs to be more flexible in their approach. But how many people are really that consistently flexible? I know I can be. I also know that I am not most of the time.
In marketing, there is a tactic whereby you segment data as you collect it so you only send certain messages to certain people. It’s a bit like a Tesco Clubcard where they only give you offers on things that you buy because they have registered everything that you have bought in the past. Some call it intrusive but at the very heart of the system is the fact that they are noting what you like and responding accordingly.
In society where one-size does not fit-all, the need for flexible communications (and flexible outcomes) has never been so necessary. I am glad I spotted this one because when I think about it I haven’t been too flexible myself recently. The noticing is the first part, now down to allowing myself to be even more flexible with my communication.
Tags: General NLP talk, NLP at Work