Jul
14
Flexibility of behaviour and communication is a fundamental facet of NLP in my eyes and one that I sometimes forget - or at least don’t apply enough thought to before, during and after an event.
I did a pitch on Friday for a project I really wanted to win for my business. The team had all worked incredibly hard on the creative work, the presentation was slick and we were confident. Perhaps though, I was too confident. The work was good, I have presented to groups before and have become reasonably good at it, but, when the time came and we entered the customers building (a local council), everything suddenly became very rigid and official.
Strict timings on our presentation, sit here until we call you - all very formal - something I am not used to. Unfortunately, I wasn’t flexible enough in my behaviour and I started to get very nervous. The pitch went well, but I came away quite disturbed at how nervous I had become immediately before and during the presentation. (more…)
Tags: Behaviours, NLP at Work
Jun
30
I’ll learn one day, hopefully soon.
I’ll learn that when my unconcious mind is literally shouting at me not to do something, perhaps I shouldn’t let my conscious mind overrule. Especially as I know from past experience that it usually ends up with me losing out in one form or other.
Two recent scenarios
- Last night I had a sneaky cheese sandwich at 9pm even though I knew I wouldn’t sleep well because of it and hey, I had a shite nights sleep.
- At work, I recently took on a company on a retainer for three months, even though my unconcious mind was telling me they weren’t worth it. Two months in I am money down and not a happy customer.
Perhaps it’s a case of relaxing more and allowing my unconscious mind to build up his persuasive voice. Perhaps it’s just a case of doing what I am (unconciously) told.
Tags: Behaviours
Mar
20
So, three days in and this Blog is doing what I wanted (needed). I am beginning to notice more, which is good. I have also noticed how I have chosen to ignore quite a few things - mainly my own ’stuff’ - which is the short-term easy option - brush it under the carpet.
This was highlighted to me metaphorically as I drove home last night following a person round a roundabout. I knew that they were going to cut the roundabout - every indication was there - but, I still chose to try and cut in on the inside, which left me frustrated when they cut across. What is that all about? (more…)
Tags: Behaviours
Mar
18
One of my biggest learnings recently came from a Human Element course I took in November last year and it keeps popping it’s head up (which is a good thing). Although not NLP, as such, the course taught me a great lesson about noticing my own behaviour (among other things).
The premise is that the behaviour I see in someone else (usually annoying in my case) is effectively my own behaviour. The noticing acts as a mirror. I wasn’t so sure to start with but the more I noticed, the more I realized - that’s me that is. I do that… and it annoys me that I do it.
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Tags: Behaviours
