The importance of rapport
I did some change work with someone last night - something I haven’t done for a long time. Plenty of time distortion linguistics, some submodality change work and showing the client how to create an anchor and make it more potent themselves.
One thing I noticed was my constant chase to develop rapport with the client. This person had had an NLP experience before, along with all the comments from friends about what NLP is, and it was interesting to note the hesitancy about what may, or may not, happen during the session.
So, I spent most of the time developing rapport, with the change work almost a side issue. Change did take place, and I’d like to think when we meet again next week, last night’s session would have enabled me to start further down the line and achieve even more change.
As a non-practicing practitioner I always wonder about my own competence during these sessions and my ability to maximise the effect of any change work. What worries me most, however, is the competence of people out there doing this for a living, with money changing hands.
Tags: General NLP talk