Time line therapy (from Tad James) is one of my favourite models of NLP and I am looking forward later in the year to trying some new code NLP technique developments I have recently experienced.
Anyway, I digress. Meetings and time keeping. I am through-time. I work to a clock. If someone says 1 o’clock for a meeting, hey, I assume that meeting will start at 1 o’clock.
In-time people are different. Time is not so rigid.
Therein, for me, lies a problem.
So how does that work in business. I have had five meetings this week. One person was half an hour late and not one of them started on time.
I don’t mind being flexible, and yes, I do appreciate that 99 times out of a hundred it’s not life threatening. But is it too much to ask in a professional environment?
My friend, Daryll Scott, who runs Use Your Noggin, a leadership and coaching company in Berkshire, wrote a book about NLP during 2007. He even got a forward by John Grinder.
Anyway, along with his business partner Ben, they have started podcasting and here’s the first one about Performance Discussions performance discussions (also available via iTunes) and he is looking for topics for his next sessions and wants to cover elements of NLP.
So, he mentioned that I could offer a copy of his NLP book free for any great suggestions of topics he could cover as he wants to address real questions that people have. Offer ends on 13th May and is limited to 10 copies so if you have any NLP topics you would like Daryll to cover, you can e-mail him here.
My mother-in-law picked me and my wife up from the funky new Eurostar train station the other day at St Pancras, in the heart of north London.
She got slightly lost, so my wife was on the phone giving directions. It was fascinating (and frustrating) to hear the directions.
In my world, what my wife should have been saying to her mum was that she needed to be coming back down the road she was going and should do a u-turn somewhere. What she was telling her to do was turn left then right or right then left. Wouldn’t that mean she’d be going parallel to the road she was on, still going in the same direction?
Anyway, that’s my world. In their world, they both knew exactly what she meant. I am often baffled, since learning NLP, about how any of us actually communicate in a way where the other person understand us.
A work colleague is going on an NLP Practitioner course in June and I was chatting through it yesterday with him (recognizing the need not to impose my own experience on his). It took me back to when I first ‘found’ NLP.
All through my twenties I remember reading about eastern ‘religions’ such as Buddhism, Taoism, etc. having not really bought into our westernized ways of organized beliefs; looking for something to help make me stronger mentally. I still think these two philosophies especially have an amazing amount to offer… (more…)
I work in the creative industry and part of the sales process involves pitching. I got some great feedback last night (which also applies to many aspects of life when it comes to communication) about pacing an experience - in this case a sale.
My client mentioned that from an initial meeting they had come in wanting one thing, we had effectively up-sold them to a better marketing concept - they loved the ideas. Then we had meeting number two where we presented our ideas, which again they loved.
I am not sure if it is because some people think they are simply artistic but I do hear quite a few people telling me how they are really visual. Sometimes, they are - fair enough - and more often than not, their whole demeanor points to another representational system.
The question is, I have to feel confident in my own sensory alignment and will continue to build rapport with what I notice in the other persons behavioour (it’s all about utilization right?), but I wonder about their own assessment and whether it is wishful thinking or worth bearing in mind when communicating.
