Choosing a mood
Yes, choice again. Because it’s all a choice, isn’t it? Believe it or not, the way you feel and your actions are all choices.
“He makes me feel bad”, or “That always happens to me” are all choices and decisions we make. That’s why you may meet someone with the most debilitating situation that is still on top of the world, compared to someone who has everything going for them who still feels like the world is against them.
I was reminded of that this morning. One thing happened (and I can’t even remember what it was now) and it put me in a bad mood. Or, more correctly, I chose to feel crappy about it. Then, another thing (that I chose to focus on) allowed me to choose to compound a feeling of negativity. I began to create [unreasonable] additional generalizations to reinforce that ‘facts’ that pertained to my mood - “that person always does this to me”. Before I knew it I was in a right old huff.
I did keep reminding myself that I was chosing this mood and the way to shake it off is to chose another mood and eventually it kicked in.
Many people don’t associate that they even have a choice. A key facet of NLP is cause and effect. You can either chose to believe that things ‘happen to you’ and you have no control; or you can chose to accept that you chose the way you react to situations.
Why not choose to take control?
Tags: General NLP talk