Who’s Behaviour is it?
One of my biggest learnings recently came from a Human Element course I took in November last year and it keeps popping it’s head up (which is a good thing). Although not NLP, as such, the course taught me a great lesson about noticing my own behaviour (among other things).
The premise is that the behaviour I see in someone else (usually annoying in my case) is effectively my own behaviour. The noticing acts as a mirror. I wasn’t so sure to start with but the more I noticed, the more I realized - that’s me that is. I do that… and it annoys me that I do it.
This process has helped me immensely in changing certain negative and destructive behaviours, or at least noticing them - which for me is the first step to changing.
So, next time you find yourself getting a but pissed off with someone, why not identify the behaviour that is grinding with you and ask yourself - do I ever do that?
Tags: Behaviours